Now this is possibly the most challenging subject for me to write about. Why? Because I don’t consider myself an expert. I haven’t had numerous partners and I have experienced various ‘results’ for want of a better word. In fact my ex-husband would be laughing if he thought I was writing on this subject.
So what qualifies me to write about sex? I guess it is the very fact that I have travelled the full journey of experience from one extreme to another.
And here, I am not talking about technique or position; I’m more concerned with your mind set, your inner experience that controls the outer.
- What if you could experience a relaxed bliss with your partner that you’ve never experienced before?
- What if you knew how to satisfy your partner’s sexual strategies and motivations and they could satisfy yours?
- And how would it be if you could experience complete presence and vulnerability with your partner so that you experienced every intimate second in exquisite heightened detail?
I just want to frame this post a little.
The context I am referring to is of a sexual relationship with a life partner or someone you deeply love. Why do I make the distinction? As per yesterday’s post, context makes a difference. We have different beliefs and attitudes about long term relationships than a one night stand (I think! :)).
It is in the intimate experience of sex where I believe our core vulnerabilities, conditioning, ego and power trips have the opportunity to manifest the most. Even in the most loving relationships I believe there is the potential to create either great hurt or exquisite passion in the arena of the bedroom.
We strip ourselves bare both physically and emotionally when we connect with our partner in this way. And it is an opportunity for all our insecurities, fears and ‘stuff’ to surface or to choose fun and bliss.
It is such an important part of who we are and yet this tends to be a major area of ourselves that it’s not ok to talk about, even with our partners.
And I guess that’s why I wanted to share.
I know that there’s the potential scenario that I could have gone my whole life without experiencing the bliss and joy that sex can be and I’m sure there are many others in the world who are still wondering what all the fuss is about.
What could NLP possibly teach me about sex?
So to NLP – I was fortunate enough to be able to release many of the beliefs and negative emotions that I had around sex when I took my Master Practitioner training. I don’t want to get too personal but suffice to say it changed my life in that area.
With NLP, Time Line Therapy ™, NLP Coaching and Hypnosis you can…
- work with a coach to identify and uncover the issues that are encroaching on your intimate relationship with your partner
- Identify and release easily and effortlessly, limiting beliefs and negative emotions that are preventing you from opening up to the full experience
- Release past traumatic experiences
- Learn to improve rapport and trust with your partner
- Improve your self-esteem and self-confidence
- Identify your partners preferred sensory style in love making
- Learn to calibrate (understand the subtle changes in your partner so that you can measure their response) your partner so that you can identify what works, what doesn’t, and change it if required
- Understand how your partners mind works and their communication style for intimacy so that you improve your love making
And the list doesn’t stop there.
So how would it do that?
Going back to the NLP Communication Model that I introduced in an earlier post (Your Mind is Like Facebook). I mentioned in that post the link between your Internal Representation and your state.
‘Our internal representation controls our state (how we feel), which controls our physiology (our body) and our behaviour (what we do) which then controls the results you get.’
And this is very important in the case of sexual intimacy.
If you feel confident about sex and you are present with your partner in the moment, you will have a very different experience than if you’re ‘lying back thinking of England’.
I’d wager that the internal representation that a woman has in her mind, or not, is responsible for whether she reaches orgasm or not.
With NLP, Time Line Therapy™ and hypnosis, we’re working with your unconscious mind and filters (including memories, values and beliefs, decisions, language, Meta programs, Time/space/matter/energy) to help you create an internal representation that works for you in producing the best and most appropriate state that will generate the best behaviour and therefore best result, even in the bedroom.
If things aren’t quite perfect for you in this area of your life what can you do next to make a change (in order of recommendation)?
- Contact an NLP/Time Line Therapy™/Hypnosis trained coach who you feel comfortable working with in this area. OR
- Sign up for The Love Audit, where the subject of intimacy and releasing your ‘stuff’ around sex is covered. OR
- Attend an NLP Practitioner Training where you will learn the techniques to help others as well as helping yourself (if you have serious issues, working with a coach is recommended).
In preparing to write this blog I realised there was just so little detail I could cover in this space, and I’ve been inspired to write an e-book. If you are interested in reviewing the e-book or would like to be notified of its release, please email me at email@example.com and I’ll ensure you receive further information.
The End of Relationship Week
So this brings to a close my blogging about realtionships for now.
If you’d like to read more about NLP and Relationships I will be setting up a blog (available by Friday 23rd September 2011) specifically for The Love Audit at http://www.theloveaudit.com
I invite you to join me on my next practitioner training – details at http://www.excellenceaddicts.com/practitioner.html
Or on The Love Audit online programme launching at the beginning of October 2011. I’m offering a maximum of ten spaces, to ensure that I can give you the one to one attention.
“And this is the reason I find myself coming back to relationships. My wish for everyone on this planet is that they experience a love so deep and exquisite that you are experiencing heaven on earth with another, this lifetime.” – Heather Bond
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