This week I’ve been discussing modelling and how you go from zero to successful.
One thing we’ve established that is key is that successful people don’t give up. They go through the obstacles, the rejections, the nay sayers, the pit falls, the impossible situations, all the while focused on and having absolute belief in their goal.
They are willing to do the things that others aren’t. They are willing to go against traditional thinking and other people’s ideas of how things should be. They are willing to push boundaries and look for new ways of doing things. To take the road less travelled.
Successful people are willing to put in effort, to do what it takes, no matter how uncomfortable it sometimes feels. They move through circumstances that the average person isn’t willing to contemplate. They have a dream that they can see, hear, feel in their core and can almost taste, and they will stop at nothing to get it.
The Pursuit of Happyness
One perfect example of this is Chris Gardner the man on whom the movie The Pursuit of Happyness is based. He faced homelessness with his young son in order to pursue his dream.
Successful people tend to face adversity. It’s like having to pass a strength test. If you are able to go through the obstacles and build your resilience then you will be strong enough to live your dream.
It’s like trying to lift weights. You don’t start off never having lifted weights and go straight in at 60kg lift. You begin with the small weights, building up until you can cope with the greater weight. And as you get toward your goal it gets tougher as the weight gets heavier, until you’ve lifted the weight so many times that even the heavier weight gets easier.
In Neuro Linguistic Programming this can be explained through Clare Graves Values levels (or Spiral Dynamics). Here I give a cut down simplistic explanation.
The theory is that we evolve through values systems which are related to what our level of thinking and our nervous system can deal with. As we evolve through these values levels our neurology/nervous system changes to deal with the new thinking, values, emotions and attitudes we need at the next level.
When we shift from one values level to another it can take a complete collapse of the previous values level to propel us to the new.
Values levels are not just based on individuals but groups and systems. So for instance you could say that right now we are witnessing the constant collapse in the financial sector in order for the economic systems to move to a new level, as the old system seems outdated and is no longer working.
What does this mean for successful people?
Sometimes what is seen as failure by others is simply the growth process that individuals must go through in order to reach a point where they are ready to sustain success.
An apprenticeship if you like. The caterpillar must breakthrough the cocoon at just the right time to survive as a butterfly.
Everything is a choice and in the face of adversity successful people often choose to grow where others decide to stay in their comfort zones, tolerating life.
Successful people often choose to carry on when others give up defeated. Remember Thomas Edison? How many attempts will you take to reach your dream?
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