Today I wanted to share a short exercise which you can use on a daily basis as a daily habit to ensure that you communicate effectively with each other within your relationship. I used it with my family (my husband and my son) and it works really well in keeping communication open.
The key to its success is the willingness to really listen and be open to understanding where each other are coming from.
This Exercise will improve Communications in Loving Relationships
A similar technique is used in the ‘Feedback Sandwich’ which you may have come across on training courses and would definitely come across on my NLP Practitioner Training.
This is also a powerful technique for team meetings. I have been known to use it in a hidden form in techie team meetings.
It’s also a little from the shamanic tradition and you’ll need a talking stick which we improvised at home by using a wooden spoon. Choose something that you use just for this process and you can decorate it if you want.
The idea of a talking stick is that the person holding the stick is the one who can talk for the time they have the stick. You can allocate a certain amount of time for holding th stick and this can vary depending on the context of the process.
The Exercise In the Context of Loving Relationships
In this exercise the person holding the stick has the opportunity to share their thoughts and their truth.
There are three main questions to be answered:
- What’s working for me?
- What’s not working for me?
- How could things be improved?
Depending on the context a person can go through all three before passing the stick or you can pass the stick after each answer has been shared.
The Rules for Results In Loving Relationships
Sometimes things may get heated and emotional and it’s important that you hold the space for each other, allow each other to express what you feel so that any issues can be shared and resolved.
Give it a try. You can choose the frequency of the exercise depending on where you are in your relationship.
This is one of the exercises you’ll experience on The Love Audit Live…
If you would like the opportunity to clear some of your stuff, to fall in love with yourself, to uncover your purpose and set a path toward attracting your perfect life partner then why not join me and Jackie at http://www.theloveaudit.com for our online programme beginning on 31st October 2011 or the Love Audit Live in London on 9th, 10th and 11th December 2011.
I’ll be revealing the tools and techniques I’ve used on my journey and sharing more secrets with you.
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