In these days of haste and speed, everyone seems to be in a hurry. And the area of Love Relationships is not immune to the ‘quick fix’ culture. Often people go from one relationship to the next without stopping to really consider what they want or to give themselves time to heal from the last relationship.
If we have issues and problems we want them fixed as quickly as possible so that we can move on and create something new. We always seem to be striving for something new, something better, the something ‘missing’ from our lives. And when everything falls apart we want it fixed again as quickly as possible.
I am guilty of this myself. I’ve been rebuilding and working on myself for the past 2 years since my partner’s death and every couple of months I keep wishing I’d gotten further than I have. In lots of ways I’ve achieved more than I ever thought I could and in other ways I’m only now finding my solid foundations. Others think I’m recovering quickly, taking into consideration a few other changes and challenges along the way and then others think I have failed. It really depends on your measurement and perspective.
Healing from a Love Relationship breakdown
We all have our healing time and depending upon the additional challenges and circumstances you face on your healing journey, and your willingness and ability to change, these factors will all impact the time it takes to heal, to be ready for your next relationship. And I know I am still not ready! And things are accelerating at a rate of knots so watch this space.
So how do you know you’re ready for your next Love relationship?
I personally think it’s for each individual to know and to be brutally honest with yourself.
My aim is to fall in love with myself and my life, so that I am not entering my next relationship from a position of unmet needs or a feeling of lack.
For me it’s when I have met the requirements of my ‘job description’. When I am able to perform and achieve not only as I could in the past but better, given the new knowledge and experiences I have learned along the way. When I am standing in my truth living out the choices and the dreams I have chosen for myself in a way that nourishes and supports me.
When I am clear about my purpose and path and am achieving certain goals I have set myself before I want to enter into my next relationship. To have completed and cleared all remnants from the past relationships that may harm a future relationship and to have broken through certain beliefs and barriers that I am clearly aware of and working on.
Be Honest and Open with You Rather than Rushing
It’s about being brutally honest so that you are open and acknowledging the areas that are still not working in your life and taking the action to move forward so that you are ready for that special person.
My job description isn’t specifically there for relationship purposes. It’s mainly there as a guide for me as to who I want to show up as in the world irrespective of other people. This is my shopping list for me. The characteristics I know will help me achieve my dream life.
In terms of relationships I have quite a list of values and characteristics that are important to me in my partner, it’s only fair that I have some for me to match my this amazing person I want to attract.
The last post on Love Relationships
This is the final post on this unexpected week of Relationship blogs.Tomorrow I beging a look at NLP for Health, Sport and Exercise
Wishing you a healing and loving journey as you move towards creating the relationship you want with yourself and with another.
If you would like the opportunity to clear some of your stuff, to fall in love with yourself, to uncover your purpose and set a path toward attracting your perfect life partner then why not join me and Jackie at http://www.theloveaudit.com for our online programme beginning on 31st October 2011 or the Love Audit Live in London on 9th, 10th and 11th December 2011.
I’ll be revealing the tools and techniques I’ve used on my journey and sharing more secrets with you.
Register your interest by downloading the questionnaire and I really hope I get to met you soon.