In a world that appears to be in turmoil, where our futures seem less certain, it is easy to get caught up in the illusion of struggle.
I know I do this myself. I can be in flow with the ease of things and then events happen and suddenly I catch myself struggling and pushing to get the world back to how I think it should be.
Step 1 – Define what you want and release the how.
And this is the first tip to elevating struggle.
Accept that things may not turn out to be how you expect them to, especially if you have put minimum effort into defining what specifically you want.
So define what you want in a very specific way (if you’d like to know how to define your goals so that you ask clearly for what you want – check out the Achievement Accelerator). Or acknowledge that the less specific you are the more room for interpretation you give to the universe.
If you order a shirt from an online store – saying you want a shirt really isn’t specific enough. Think online store when putting your request to the universe. And then there’s the S.M.A.R.T criteria (sign up for free resources to find out more).
Once you have defined your goal let go of wanting to control how you get there. Take massive action and yet don’t be attached to how it turns up.
Step 2 – Don’t worry what Others think
This is your life and your set of goals. This is about what you want and who you want to be – the authentic you.
Acknowledge that there will always be someone who wants you to take on their way of thinking, live the way they expect you to. This is where being clear about your truth and who you are gives you the power to follow your own instincts and values.
You are living your life not someone else’s.
I have been a people pleaser. The thing is when you make choices for your life based on what someone else thinks is best for you and it goes terribly wrong – suddenly those people tend not to be around to help you out.
Take responsibility – Be the director of your own movie.
Step 3 – Set Realistic Goals
In a world where we are encouraged to look for instant gratification, where we expect things to move faster, to materialise almost instantly, it is easy to create pressure and struggle for yourself by expecting results almost instantly without taking into account where you are and where you energy is.
In our haste to achieve our goal we tend to become energetically and emotionally attached to ‘having it, as soon as possible and our way’.
Life will move out-of-the-way when confronted with this energy and allow you to push on in the direction you are so focused on moving in, while we often miss the glaring short cut to what we want because we are so tunnel-visioned and sure of our own course.
And we may continue on regardless of the pain or whether our actions are actually effective or appropriate.
Step – 4 Create balance and stability in all areas of your life
When you set goals or take action look at where you are putting your effort. Put effort into each area of your life to create balance. You must exercise control and balance in every area in order to let go of struggle.
It’s an interesting concept that most people would rather continue to put their energy into struggle than put effort in to balance and stability. Manage your diet, take exercise, create more loving relationships, work effectively rather than long, take time to learn and grow, take time to relax and be.
Take small actions each day in each area to take back control of your life. You are the director of your movie so you can choose what you’d like to happen in each area.
Step 5 – Choose to be happy where you are – right now!
Being satisfied and happy with where you are now gives your energy and attention over to the present.
You aren’t stressing and dissatisfied with the past or fretting over what you want to improve with what’s wrong about now.
How can you be happy with you great work and learn from what you’ve created, so that you can create an even better scene next time? How can you adapt to the changes that are happening so that you work with the changes to produce an amazing result.
Put Down The Weights of Struggle
How Much More Energy and Focus would you have if you were to decide that Life was Easy and you were just going to Flow with it?
If you decided that no matter what external circumstances looked like you could handle it and release the struggle?
If all of your struggles and stories about them were to disappear how would you feel?
Would you feel bored and naked without your struggles?
Struggle is a choice and can be an addictive one. After all without drama what is there?
And I acknowledge that I am as guilty as anyone of buying into the ‘life is hard, I and if I don’t have struggle then I’m not worthy’ mentality.
Choose to let it go. Choose ease and joy instead.