Have you ever felt that you are your own worst enemy?
Have you had a time when you have doubted yourself or over criticised yourself and made yourself wrong?
Have you ever mentally beaten yourself up so severely that you literally want to give up on everything?
Isn’t it all such a waste of energy that could be used much more beneficially on positive and effective pursuits?
Here are three quick tips on stopping yourself from further self abuse
1 – Begin to notice it. Notice what tends to trigger an attack of self-negativity and abuse.
Once you notice the triggers associate them with a different state and new set of ‘internal tapes’ by rehearsing what you would prefer to hear.
Choose language that would be more supportive and constructive.
2 – If you do enter into a negative rant at yourself turn the volume down and change the voice. Make it a Donald Duck voice or a sexy voice.
It makes it more difficult to take the comments seriously when you are hearing a husky, slow sexy voice.
3 – Take three deep and slow breaths focusing on the path of your breath and ask yourself – Is this the truth? What is the absolute truth here?
Acknowledge what you have learned and the positive steps you can take in the future. Also acknowledge where your ranting is aimed at a pure interpretation of events.
What actually happened – a description without interpretation – may be much less worthy of criticism than your inner critic would have you believe.
Attacking yourself or listening to continuous negative internal talk can be the route of a number of self-esteem and job/role/life performance issues.
Begin to change it. Begin to make the effort to observe and adjust.
This can literally have a profound impact on your life and you.