When life throws us challenges, big challenges that tear at our heart and test our spirits it can be easy to get lost in the darkness and lose site of the joyful events that take place synchronously.
The Coin has Two sides
This is a very different post from the one I had aimed to write this morning, only because today, in fact the next few months (for me) will be lived with such contrast, such opposites.
There are things going on in my life and in the life of my family that could bring me to my knees, yet I’m focusing on the light, the only thing that extinguishes the darkness. The stuff that causes laughter and joy and happiness in the saddest of times. The stuff that reminds you to celebrate life, to squeeze every last drop of love and happiness from the moments you still have with people who you love. To appreciate that you are healthy, resourceful, happy and well.
Today I laughed and ‘played’ much more than I have in ages, yet the morning began with all my plans and expectations for the day in tatters on the floor and me being asked to dance to a different tune. To go with a greater plan. To allow what I cannot control.
Have you Ever Had one of those days?
I awoke early to make a start on my plans and got out of bed full of intent and focus and determination and within minutes I realised that this was no ordinary day and more important things (from what I usually have judged important) required my time and focus.
I am being reminded of self-care and that we cannot help those we love if we are not fit enough, strong enough and have enough faith in ourselves to do so.
We must be the change we seek to make in the world, in the lives of our families, our communities our friends.
I’m being reminded that the important things in life are often closer to you than you think. They are often the moments we take for granted. The time to play with a child, to catch-up with friends, to help somebody laugh, to hold someone’s hand, to take a moment to say ‘I love you’.
We have a choice to look for light in the darkness and to focus on the light, even when we know the candle will burn out.
To remind ourselves it only takes one flame to light endless others.
It’s so easy to get focused on what we sometimes consider the futility of events we cannot control.
It’s braver and more magical to be able to keep your focus on the flame. To laugh as it dances, to love as it glows and to celebrate it while it burns.
And there is always light. The quest is to begin looking for it and focusing on it whatever the situation.
To be open to the perfection of life and see the bigger plan beyond the details we lock ourselves into.
And to remember that what you focus on expands You cannot create light by focusing on the darkness.
You cannot remove violence by focusing on violence.
Look for the Light
Look for the joy and the light in everything and you’ll find it’s easier to find than you thought.
Let go of the need to control that which you cannot and learn to go with the flow, to recognise moment by moment what is truly important.
Commit to living a life in the light, keeping the light alive in you, taking tiny steps to finding the light in each situation, each event, each life, each day.
This is a very different post from the one I had planned.
And I just wanted to acknowledge that there are times I missed the magic in the darkness, the shooting stars of hope and joy, because I had allowed the darkness to shroud me in despair.
I am learning this does not have to be.
Tiny steps my friend, tiny steps and tiny flames.
One small flame in a darkened room has a big impact.