There are some experiences in life which you learn from and promise not to repeat.
This can make you appear hard or cold in certain situations where you’ve learned to detach and allow folks to take responsibility for themselves.
This seems to have been the theme of my week.
Detachment doesn’t mean less love.
It doesn’t mean I love others any less.
I have just decided that if they aren’t willing to take responsibility for themselves and make the changes necessary then my worry and energy and focus on them is absolutely a waste of time.
Sometimes you are called on to take responsibility and I’m learning that to.
And even in a caring role you cannot force others to do what you feel is best.
We all have choices about how we live our lives and look after ourselves.
Some of us will ignore warning signs even if they are painted across the sky in big red letters.
If you choose to ignore the signs then it is unfair to expect some one to rescue you.
Your duty as the carer/rescuer
And if you are the rescuer then recognise, you standing by is often allowing the person to stay where they are without taking responsibility for helping themselves.
There is a line where help is more harmful than beneficial.
Tough lessons to learn when often it relates to health, life and death and the very people we care about the most.
Number one thing to remember
You are not responsible for anyone else’s life where they can decide for themselves and won’t!