What we tell ourselves about ourselves, our environment and events in our lives, tends to determine how we shape our future.
‘You get what you focus on’ so focus on Your Best Life
A clear example is of focusing on reasons why we can’t do something rather than the things we can do.
My personal experience about this is that it is mainly a problem if you feel you can control the complete journey. What do I mean by that?
Here’s a really simple example. I have decided not to go shopping on a Friday because I have logically convinced myself that the traffic is always busier, the last time I went on a Friday I couldn’t get parked and the store was crowded.
This thinking removes any possibility of me allowing it to be something different. Yet we know that the past does not determine the future. Things are changing all of the time. It could be a holiday. Everyone else may have gone through the same thinking I did. It could be bad weather and most people may have decided to stay home or it just might not be busy.
I could choose to see the trip as enjoyable and that I get a parking space with ease and that I can handle a little bit of traffic and I can remind myself how helpful the staff in the store are and how much better I will feel when the shopping is done.
I don’t even need to go through the whole journey in my head. I can decide to be open to surprises and just do it. Just start. Just set off with optimism and a decision to enjoy the journey.
We Can’t Control Everything but We Can Choose Our Best Life
We can’t control every step of our journey. As in the example, we can’t control the traffic or how busy the store is.
What is within our control are our thoughts and feelings and our response to each individual step along the way. And how we respond often determines how enjoyable or difficult the journey is. Putting on music and singing along while accepting there’s traffic and there’s nothing you can do but enjoy the extra time you’ve been given creates a completely different outcome to getting angry and letting the person in the car in front know about it.
My own personal belief is that sometimes delays happen to keep us out of trouble.
Not too long ago I was driving to my office, which is usually a 45 minute journey. Yet that morning every tractor and Learner driver in the area seemed to be on the road so I travelled 22 miles at under 30 miles per hour.
It occurred to me that this was a benefit to me. For some reason I was not meant to be travelling at my usual speed. Just as I approached a roundabout near the end of my journey I was held up again. This time by ambulances and police cars attending to an accident that had occurred in the last 10 minutes. Had I been travelling at my usual timing, I would have been there when the accident occurred.
Change your thoughts, Change your life.
The point of this is that I hope to remind you that sometimes the best option we have is to take a leap of faith and to trust our instincts over our head.
Begin our journey. Recognise that the obstacles that show up may be for our own good and that we choose how much of an obstacle they are anyway. We give meaning to our experience and we are always free to choose a different interpretation that has the power to shift our own reality.
I understand this can be a difficult leap when big challenges happen and yet those big things can turn out to be positive, life changing experiences.
The One Thing That can Change everything.
There is something, a key element to all of this that it has taken me a life time and many personal challenges to understand. Something I am only now beginning to get integrated into my life, to use for myself.
I have chosen to share that in a series of 3 short videos that help you choose this year to be The Best Year of Your Life.
I would love to hear your thoughts and stories about your experiences around choosing your thoughts and perspective and how it has helped you (or not). Please share in the comments below.
To creating your new adventure!